Comments on: Ramblings of a lonely Teenage Mind

By: alfiesaden

alfiesaden — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 10:34:12 +0000

hi there – is it just me !! can any one explain why when i type in the firefox browser “www.gaylaxymag.com” i get a different site yet whe i type it in google its ok? could this be a bug in my system or is any one else having same probs ?
alf saden

By: selva

selva — Tue, 04 Jan 2011 07:21:25 +0000

Sorry guys for not responding earlier…just learned about ur comments from our editor…..thanks for the encouraging words and sympathy….. I ll get back to each one of u persinall after my exams….till then godspeed in all ur endeavours….

By: Aplusk

Aplusk — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 14:18:02 +0000

Hey Selva Saravanan.. All that you wrote is completely true which is been faced by almost each of the millions and billions Homosexual men who some how has to shatters the doors of there liking at some point or to grow under own skin finding self solution due to these indoctrinated society… These has led to many miserable life of Homosexual men which they never deserve at first place. I am not open about my sexuality. I hardly believe one has to publish it in society, where in my case I some people suspected me as gay, but I was never even brought to the state to revile anything, practically no one would dare to taunt me or disgrace me because the respect I win form them being young athletic, well known stylish western follower, happy but still among the crowd guy…. And the most due to my well know parents and the paparazzi made out of my relation with one of the most prestigious catholic and rich family’s girl who love me…! So I ve lot N number of straight friends.. Between I had faced the same situation that you wrote in your article, which later I decided to make best use of everything I got in my life to change the perception of as many people as I can who could be or are homophobia.. The best way and very working formula I use, to talk about suspected gay men in positive view but in very mumbaikar and Indian way not falling in complete favor which I ve seen changed many guys perception who are close to me and I am happy cuz I can say I am making something out of nothing. after all those debate and high standard takes that is been going since ages now about Homosexuality in the square room box filled with bunch of people for listening out of which some have only agenda of making their own impression… I choose to be secure and start revolution from inside .Blacks where treated under racism where black people where living in the mostly every part of the world. And they without fail proved their life is as vital as whites and they could be better than whites.. Truly even still all the famous black people would use there image as weapon to prove that they are not less.. So Simply the rules apply for every criteria in the universe unless you prove they wont except…! And they will accept everything what is been shown to them in there manner form…!
For better understanding of homosexuality in the society I use my image and simple formulas to bring atleast a slight change in their views into positive view of homosexuality…! With the increase of showing positive sides of homosexuality on television and movies its changing view specially new Generation..
I ve started inside revolution when I was 16, have you yet? Iam 22 and proud Human to say I made worth of what I could have thought I could starting when I felt left alone and my world imperfect when everything was perfect around…!!!

By: RAJ KUMAR

RAJ KUMAR — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 18:34:06 +0000

i am also in the same phase as u r and sometimes i just feel that i should just shout it out that i am gay and just see whatever happens. but really when i think of doing it, i start having thoughts that if i do that what will happen to me in my office and will i be able to handle that as i am not very mentally strong…..dont know what to do…

By: Hadi Hussain

Hadi Hussain — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 04:42:43 +0000

Dear Saravanan

You have indeed chalked out the experiences of what most of gay men go through in their lives. I myself came out when I was 24 and before that I was doing what you have described. I used to feel that my family and friends whom I have lived for decades will hate me or disown me but one fine day I said to myself “Fuck every one. If they truly love me than they will be with me. Otherwise it’s better to end those relationships who cannot take you as you are.” I came out slowly and gradually and not a single person abandoned me. Although it took some time for few to understand but everything ended up well.

And talking of happiness and contentment, well I thought maybe I remain closeted, marry a girl, have kids and make everyone happy. Than I’ll have companionship, and maybe happiness but than I thought of those couples who face divorce, separation or death of a spouse. I think of their loneliness and I concluded that sexual orientation doesn’t have anything to do with happiness. Life is full of chances.

I read somewhere that if you want to change something, become that change. That’s what I m doing. I wish you all the very best in your life. Don’t worry. You see if good times don’t last for never than why would bad times.

By: Varun

Varun — Fri, 03 Sep 2010 19:13:14 +0000

Wel i wud jst say u r rite…
Same hapns wid me bt the nly difrnc is dat i hv a frnd who is a girl..nd she knws abt me….
Wel atractng to guys is vry bt to tel wt u want frm thm is lyk to search pearl frm ocean…
Nthng more jst leave on ur dstny..

By: vivek

vivek — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 06:04:55 +0000

hi selva,
You jus mirrorred my thoughts…i’ve been living your life for years now..but when the time comes bot of us will come out too ppl who matter to us..so dont worry mate…dunno if you’re reading this but if interested we can catch up..lemme know…

By: Jay

Jay — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 10:17:20 +0000

I know exactly how you feel! I’m 19 now and I came out to my best friends last year, both girls. And this year, I told a whole bunch of other people. I think you might find that people are more tolerant that they appear to be. So telling people might not be bad idea…maybe you can test the waters first to find out what they really think. That’s what I did.
All these years have been quite horrible. I completely identify with this feeling of being pressured to find a girlfriend. It’s the worst. It happened to me when I was 13. And I gave in to the pressure. That year was quite bad. I pretended that I was in love with her and all sorts of things only because I didn’t want to be the odd one out.
There would be so many times that I would be dying to tell my friends about the boys I like and I just couldn’t.

I hope you can tell your friends soon, or that you can find others who you think will be tolerant. P.S: I told one of my friends, this guy who’s as straight as they come, and he never ever thought that I had/have/will have a crush on him.
Even now, when I tell someone, I think they are going to say “OH MY GOD!” But they don’t. They just say ok. And life goes on

By: netnate for you

netnate for you — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 03:38:29 +0000

hi,

you are not alone.. the sad thing is.. there are many like you who remain lonely and alone for the rest of their lives.. as gays can be soo promiscuous..

hope you get the one you are looking for.. but i wudnt be surprised if you dont. dont chase a mirage.. it will lead you into the wilderness of desperation and quiet frustration!

enjoy life…. but do realize its not easy to be happy and GAY at the same time…