“Erotic massage may be used in sex therapy as a means of stimulating the libido or increasing the ability of a person to respond positively to sensual stimulus. In some cases, erotic massage can be a form of foreplay without sexual gratification, intended to heighten the sensitivity of an individual prior to another engagement where sexual arousal and fulfillment is intended. In other cases, erotic massage may be used professionally to help men address issues of premature ejaculation. Methods employed may teach the recipient to relax the musculature of his pelvis and thus prolong arousal and increase pleasure” Source: Wikipedia

He likes being lubed and the play of fingers

Yes, this is one way to help your man feel the oomph of heavenly pleasures- consent always needed though. If it is his first time, he may shudder a bit and I ask you to go easy on him- emulating what gay porn stars enact on the screen shouldn’t be the way- he may just not enjoy it, or want it again.

Aaron.What is a prostate massage?

Prostate massages are erotic massages that have been used since centuries, so yes, it is not the new-age phenomena in arousal techniques. Men in Asian countries especially, have had prostrate massages administered to them to enhance their prowess on bed. It isn’t beneficial just for sexual purposes, but to relieve medical symptoms too – enlarged prostate for example. In addition to that, prostate massages also help with improved urinary flows, blood circulation and helps keep the prostate tissues intact too.

Disclaimer: Please do consult your healthcare specialist before trying the therapy, and I encourage you to do so, to know if it is safe for you or not.

How to do it

You would need a clean pair of hand gloves made from latex or rubber, which should be used with a high grade anal lube. Wear your gloves and use one of your lubricated finger to push very gently into the anus- press against the prostate. The prostate gland is a small round ball inside the anus, and very light pressure needs to be administered here. A couple of seconds and you shall release the gland, and move on to the other areas of the zone.


You may also pick up high grade prostate massagers if you please. Lubricate the portion on the device (follow the instructions on the manual) and insert very gently into the anus of your man. While doing that, you may use your thumb to apply a little pressure between the scrotum and the anus- it enhances the effect and gives him more pleasure too.

1While the massage is on

Don’t head on with the massage for more than ten to thirty seconds at a stretch, and always keep your beau’s comfort factor in mind. Judge the moans and groans, it tells you about his experience. If he asks you to time out with the action – respectfully do so.

You may also give him a little head action to keep his senses flowing the right way- helps distract the mind from the minimal tingling sensation he may feel. Alternatively, do breathe into his ears and assure him of the lovemaking- assurance while sex is romantic.

1With the other hand, do engage in a little nipple play, penis stroking or cup his testicles to make him feel nice. This is what would make him get a little hornier than the usual- he may just not want you to stop milking his prostrate ever!


One can also give him a hot stone massage, placing volcanic warm stones on the spine and helping his nerves and senses loosen up and relax.

1Have fun!


Rohan Noronha