You could be gay and open, and flaunt with your gang all those party pictures, but the intimate relationships are lost when you date someone who is closeted. Nothing is more painful than you being open and your relationship being in the closet.
When you "do it" with someone whom you are emotionally connected to, where there is a deep feeling of "you are mine and I am yours", your inhibitions run away. Every kiss, every touch, and caress gives you a feeling of being explored by someone who is going to love you, beyond the bed
The advantage of peeking is, that they can always go back in! The shell is intact, the closet is half open, and they still can hide comfortably, either to open it all, when they feel like, close it up for good, or stay there as long as they want, peeking once in a while to get the best of both worlds!
If being gay is a way of attracting attention according to you, either you are jealous of the attention, or are sad that gayness works better than your attempt at being the ‘beloved witch’. My condolences.