A Slut is Born Today

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-Rohan Noronha

My best friend from Chennai had a break up last month, and his ex called him a SLUT when the break up happened. But before you pass a judgment on either of them, let me tell you why my friend was called a slut. Both of them are in college, and have been together right from class 12. My friend is a hopeless romantic, and was very open about his feelings for other men, especially his college math professor. However, he was very loyal and honest to his lover as well. My friend’s name is Rishabh and his boyfriend’s name is Manu.

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The word “slut” directed at Rishabh was like a jolt out of the blue, it came unexpected this morning. Rishabh says he was quite unaware of why he was being called that, especially when he has always been honest about his feelings with Manu and towards the likeness of adoring other men around. And after having been together for so many days as a couple, such a slap from Manu only made Rishabh go back into his shell. It was more like a *bitchslap back to where you come from* situation for Rishabh, who now has sworn to make a new life for himself.

One needs to understand as you sexually and finally mature, and when you have lost your virginity ages back, you now would understand why the world calls you a slut. So is Rishabh a walking deception to the unholy word, which was once mean to embarrass or hurt someone?

Just like other friends, even I told Rishabh he isn’t a slut. Most of us have negative connotations with the word. We associate it stereotypically with an individual who is promiscuous. Or maybe with someone who is sexy and trashy to the core. And sometimes for people who are nothing but attention seekers as well, such as many Bobby Darlings around. But it is certainly not a pleasant definition of anyone’s character whatsoever.

Dictionaries term the word slut as someone who readily sleeps with many. Manu said he didn’t call Rishabh a whore, because a whore takes something in return, whereas a slut would just do it because they like what they do. In this case, the “like” would pertain to Rishabh adoring and admiring other men, not sleeping with them though. Rishabh then says if this is what being a slut is all about, he is proud to have been one openly, even while being in a loyal and committed relationship with Manu for more than a year and a half.

Rishabh doesn’t care anymore about who has to say what about his mental flirtatious acts. He knows he has enough confidence to walk out into the world and be a proud slut, if that’s what the world wants to call him. That’s where my friend nailed it (pardon the pun here). Supposedly the TOPS can have all the romping sessions they want, but when it’s the BOTTOMS chance to even mentally flirt; the horny men are damned by hornier devils that go watering other gardens. They believe that BOTTOMS have to use their brains and not their behinds to be rationale with their thoughts. And the hormones for men like Rishabh should be controlled, and never to be spoken of, especially if they are in a relationship.

Oh, puh-lease! I certainly don’t agree to this and that’s what I counseled Rishabh on. If he likes to admire men, so be it. He doesn’t have to masturbate in secrecy, we all have needs. And if his partner legitimately cares for him and his needs, my friend here should have the benefit of laying his trust in his partner. Rishabh now needs to have a man who is a man and not an immature boy who thinks he can. He doesn’t need a lover with benefits, but someone who would respect him for who or what he is.

Guess what TOPS, Bottoms are humans too. Everyone has animalistic instincts and needs. Hence the sexual compulsions within are but natural, and this is how humans are designed across the globe. There isn’t anything wrong with it and no clauses of immorality in it as well. If Rishabh and many like him want to admire a hunk or think of that man naked and making love to him, so be it. And they would now do it without feeling guilty of the bloody SLUT word fixed to their heads.

Rishabh knows his limits and I know he wouldn’t cross that ever. And if admiring someone makes you a SLUT, so be it. You know what world, a slut is surely born today, and we are proud being one!!

Rohan Noronha

Rohan Noronha

A bohemian at heart, wild child by nature, Rohan A H Noronha speaks to the soul and spirit of many through his writings. Quirky, incandescent, blunt yet polite, styling the less-fortunate and writing is a passion deep rooted and a second-self to him
Rohan Noronha